Narcissus or Humilis?

It has been observed that when it comes to seduction two types of men predominantly stand out as conquerors of courtship; Narcissus and Humilis.

Narcissus was the young man in Greek mythology that fell in love with himself after seeing his own reflection in a pool. Narcissus is the root of the term narcissism or narcissist; The pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.

How many times have you witnessed some self-centered, bragging, egotistical, pua-wannabe douche bag successfully manipulate and walk away arm in arm with an oblivious & unsuspecting woman?

We sit there dumbfounded at how women let their guard down and get bamboozled by these linguistic shysters. They approach women by loudly boasting about what they own, do and drive. They often wear ridiculously expensive brand name clothes and flamboyant jewellery.

Flash their keys and talk about their huge house in cottage country, the yacht club and how perfect their life is.

I don’t know about you but I just feel like punching these manipulative ass holes in the face.

What’s deceitful about the way they persuade women isn’t narcissism itself but rather the dishonest and empty way they project their superficial selves.

I admit it, I’m recovering from lots of vices. Among them, shameless toxic self-promotion. Mistakenly thinking that by bragging about what doesn’t truly matter I was going to lure in my ideal woman.

The true content of a man’s character is humility. The way he demonstrates real interest and that he sincerely cares. His personality and capability to show empathy define who he is. It’s important to mention that healthy narcissism DOES exist. A man who possesses this quality projects realistic self-esteem and true emotion.

Polar opposite of the unhealthy narcissist who hides his true colors and buries his emotions behind a mask of illusion.

The healthy narcissist talks about how hard he worked to get his degree or certificate. How difficult life has been and how he learned from it. He’s proud of his scars and has no shame in sharing his arduous story.

He prides himself on being a student of life and knowing little despite his experience and education. He never fishes for compliments and sees his peers as equals. A true educated gentleman, not so much in the sense of institution but rather of admirable demeanor.

A man that most women would die for. Humilis When it comes to courtship, there is no greater quality than humility.

Ya Ya, confidence is key and bla bla bla but having the courage to reveal the truth in an assertive and humble way is the winning formula that will set you apart from the sheep. Women love confidence but more so, they want to see the truth. Bragging is in itself is a lack of audacity and cowardly approach of not daring to be who you really are.

Latin for humble.

Humilis is the ability to avoid bragging and let your personality do the talking. Your capability to leave her in awe with the most powerful tools that the almighty has graced you with; Your charisma, generosity, intelligence, ability to debate passionately and romance her with a rousing gaze of passion.

Your ability to be sympathetic, empathetic, take interest and ask pertinent questions that will leave her wanting more of the real you.

Confucius once said that”humility is the solid foundation of all virtues”. Translation; being humble is the key to success and fulfillment. And if this article wasn’t enough to convince you that humility is the post powerful path to take.

Keep in mind the story of Narcissus

Remember that pool he was starring at himself in?… he drowned in it. I leave you with two quotes that leave much to think about. “Bravado may stir the crowd, but courage needs no audience.”- T. F. Hodge “Who knows himself a braggart, let him fear this, for it will come to pass that every braggart shall be found an ass”- William Shakespeare