No sex after baby? What happens after birth?

Most of the time, it is the men who notice or suffer the lack of sex after birth. After months of enduring sexless nights during the pregnancy, they were wrong to think that the abstinence will be gone after the baby is born. But then, what really happens after birth that makes women surrender sex?

What do men have to know so that they will understand why their wives act this way? When women get married, all they think about is their husband. They can’t get enough of you. They would want to spend all their time with you. And this is the period of your nonstop sex. You may actually have it every night. You are greatly enjoyed by this time because you feel that your wife loves you and that you will never get separated from each other.

And then the news came, she’s pregnant! You were both happy because you’ll be a complete family. This is the stat of her mood swings and emotional outbreaks but then you understand her because she is going through a rough time. The truth is, when a woman is pregnant her hormones are like riding a rollercoaster.

It goes up and down rapidly making her a nagger at one time and very sweet sometimes. You have to understand that during this time, there are changes that happens inside her that she may also be a stranger to. Besides, you are the father of the child she is carrying, you also have to bear the struggles that she is experiencing. This is the time that her tummy is growing big and she’s gaining weight. She feels inferior because she is no longer the sexy and fit lady that you were married to. Her insecurities are starting to buildup and this is the time that you have to be with her and make her feel that she is the most wonderful lady for you.

Months after, she is in labor and just hours past, you are now looking at your baby!

Its a very awesome feeling. You are a father now. You have to expect that she would want to spend most of her time with your baby. Her attention is always drawn to your little baby and maybe you just have to give her time to enjoy your baby. after months of another sexless nights, you may gradually start seducing her into having sex with you. But then what is it that hinders her from making love with you? After birth, she wants to shed off all the extra weight that she gained during the pregnancy. She doesn’t want to make love with you while she thinks that she’s ugly and that she’s huge or big. Give her time to regain her self confidence and you may also boost it by giving her compliments (and I mean compliments).

When her self-esteem is slowly building up again, you may ease into getting her into bed

Always try to make her feel that she is still the most beautiful woman for you. After pregnancy, women have a lot of insecurities; they think they are huge, they think they are ugly, they think that you will never love her again when you see her body that way. What you need to do is to make her feel that you never lost your hunger for her love. Just like when you were beginning your family, make her feel your passion the fire and the heat of your body. Make her feel that it is her that you want the most and that you love her no matter what and the rest will follow.